Easing the Strain of Christmas on an Isolated or Grieving Heart
The Christmas season can be a difficult time of year for someone who is isolated from his family and friends. It also can be a difficult time of year for someone who is grieving the death of a loved one. Read on for some helpful suggestions on ways to cope with both sets of trying circumstances.
Being Alone and Isolated
-If distance has made it impossible for you to be with your family members, keep in touch as often as possible by way of regular phone calls, e-mails and cards and letters through regular mail.
-Shopping for the people you love will help you feel that you are still “in the loop” and connected to them. Just make sure that you mail your gifts in late November or early December before the rush starts.
-Do not sit home alone on Christmas day. If you have no one to spend the day with, then volunteer at a soup kitchen or a charity to help those in need. In this way you are helping others and are also socializing with other people.
-If you are estranged from someone you love and that is why you feel isolated, consider doing something to remedy the conflict ridden situation. You might also look at finding ways to meet new people.
Bereavement and Grief
-Choosing to skip Christmas in order to make it easier on a family who is grieving could actually make the grief worse. You might decide to celebrate the holiday but to alter some of your traditions in order to lessen the pain felt by family members. Talk it over with your family and make a decision as a group.
-Accept the fact that grief for a loved one who has passed on is shown by different people in a variety of different ways. Try to be understanding and supportive to those who express their pain in a manner that is not the same as yours.
-If at all possible, share memories as well as tears with your family members. Remember the funny stories, and let the good memories help you with the grieving process and also help you to appreciate the holiday season.
-If you find yourself enjoying the laughter and the fun of the festive season, do not feel guilty. This does not mean that you love the person you lost any less.
-Lean on your friends for encouragement and support.
